A call, a card, a visit"_ actions speak louder than words.
When I came up with the www.sympathyfood.com concept, I researched sympathy gifts. What I found was that if you wanted to send an alternative to flowers, you better be prepared to send a fruit or gift basket. Have you ever received a gift basket? The last fruit basket I received was when I had surgery a few years ago. It was appreciated but it was more of a token gift that basically sat in my hospital room and went to waste. When I arrived home a church friend brought over a tray of lasagna and loaf of garlic bread that was devoured by my whole family. That was an "Ah hah" moment!