Making a Memory Box is a special way to cope with grief that can be done privately or as a family. Use a shoebox or small box and decorate it with pictures, beads, glitter, shells, ribbons, paints, or anything that holds memories. Inside the box put things that remind you of your loved one. It is a good place to add a little note of why an item is so special or a note to your loved one. My grandfather always carried bubble gum for kids of all ages and he was well known for it throughout the county. So a note explaining that made a penny piece of gum a memory.&n
For generations upon generations, history has been passed down through story telling. One way to help the family cope with grief is to make a time to come together to share stories of a lost love one. Special anniversaries or holidays are some opportunities to tell about the impact and meaning the deceased has had in their lifetime. Stories help you treasure the memories and pass on important messages to others of all generations. It is a chance to laugh together and cry together and hold each other close in support and care. Love shines through unique tales.&n
In a situation where sympathy gifts are proper but not requested, many people bring flowers. Though flowers are a beautiful and honest gesture, they have a short life and serve little, practical purpose. Billions of dollars are spent annually in the United States on sympathy flowers and up to 86% of flowers that are purchased annually are gifts for non-calendar holidays, such as deaths.
Do you struggle with creating the perfect sympathy message for your sympathy card? The most important thing to remember when writing your message is to make it sincere and from the heart. Many times, we have nothing but the best intentions for our sympathy message but we end up saying the wrong thing. Also, please remember that it is okay to keep your sympathy message short and sweet.
A few examples of an appropriate sympathy message:
Expressing words of sympathy can be difficult and we often find ourselves at a loss for words. If you cannot find the appropriate words of sympathy, consider using a sympathy quote to express your sympathy message. Here are a few of our favorite, appropriate sympathy quotes:
When expressing your words of sympathy to your friend, loved one or co-worker, consider writing your thoughtful words on a sympathy card. Because a death is such a sensitive time for the person experiencing the loss, expressing your sympathy message in a sympathy card will allow you to better construct your thoughts so you don't end up in an uncomfortable conversation.
Sometimes all it takes is an idea to change an entire industry, and that is exactly what David Storke did. After spending years as a Funeral Director and owner of Storke Funeral Home in Bowling Green, VA, Storke came to realize that, while flowers are a beautiful gift for a grieving loved one, they don't go far beyond their aesthetically pleasing role. He saw the need for a comforting alternative to flowers.
Do you know the interesting history behind flowers at a funeral? Flowers once had a very practical use at funerals. Before embalming became a common procedure, flowers were used to mask the odor of the decomposing body. While flowers are still an expression of sympathy and a way to show you are thinking of your grieving loved one, today, there is not a practical use beyond their beauty.
Cultures across the world have different traditions when it comes to funerals, from elaborate ceremonies to days of fasting. Some cultures feel a deep sorrow for the loss of a loved one while others celebrate the life of the deceased and the special times that were shared. Some religions urge friends and family to send flowers to the gravesite as a sign of respect, while other religions actually see this gesture as a sign of disrespect.
Written by Karen Zinn, Founder, Heart2Soul.com copyright - 2013 Heart2Soul.com
Most of us weren't raised to know what to say or do when someone dies. Should you reach out to the family? Is it ok to call, write a note, send an email? What about knocking on the door of the grieving family to drop off a gift or meal? How do we know if we are being helpful or an intrusion? There is no clear answer when it comes to funeral sympathy.