All loss of life and the subsequent grief is difficult, but grieving after a suicide can be particularly hard because of conflicting feelings you may be having about your loved one who chose to take their life. Here are a few things to remember as you deal with this difficult time.
When we know someone who has lost a loved one, it's hard to know exactly what to say to them when we see them at the wake or funeral, or maybe just putting words into a sympathy card can be difficult. Then in the weeks and months that follow, what is and is not appropriate to talk about, and how do we continue to express our sympathy?
Below are just a few tips for different scenarios on how to express your feelings genuinely and succinctly.
In a sympathy card:
Losing a child, whether the child was born yet or not, is the hardest thing a parent can go through. Helping a friend or family member through this time can also be difficult. You may not know what to do or say, you may feel helpless and you may also be hurting from the loss.
If you've recently lost someone dear to you, you may be dealing with the kind of overwhelming grief that doesn't leave you for a second. This kind of grief can be physically and spiritually exhausting, leaving you little room to take on anything beyond your immediate feelings. But we all need rest and reprieve from grief - even if just for a few moments or a couple of hours. So what can you do that can take your mind off your feelings or help you cope and work through them?
Death is not the only thing people grieve. There are many traumatic situations in which people grieve and need sympathy and support from their loved ones. Below are just a few additional scenarios where people may find themselves in the throes of grief, and some tips for how to show your sympathy and support.
If you've ever lost someone close you to you - especially a parent, grandparent or spouse, you know how difficult it can be to sort through their affairs, find the appropriate paperwork, determine what needs to be done with all their belongings and so forth.
At the end of someone's life, many people are often involved in taking care of the ill and their family. In some cases it may be a professional caregiver, hospice worker or nurse, or it may just be a family friend who stepped in to lend a hand. In any case, you may be wondering if there's a way to thank them for the comfort and assistance they provided during this difficult time.
The Sympathy Food blog talks a lot about how to help someone deal with grief, how to help yourself through grief and other grief coping mechanisms, but we have never really dived into what exactly grief is, at its core. So today we're going to give you a Grief 101 Lesson. This is great information for both people dealing with grief, or for those helping a loved one navigate the grieving process.
At the Sympathy Food blog, we've talked a bit about end-of-life planning regarding wills and advanced directives, but today we want to talk about planning specifically for your funeral and your wishes in regards to the ceremony (or lack thereof) that honors the end of your life. And we're going to make a case for why you should be planning it now - regardless of your age or health.
Henry David Thoreau once said, "Routine is a ground to stand on, a wall to retreat to; we cannot draw on our boots without bracing ourselves against it." Routine can help us significantly through a time of grief by grounding us and helping us to get through the day.