At the Sympathy Food blog, we've talked a bit about end-of-life planning regarding wills and advanced directives, but today we want to talk about planning specifically for your funeral and your wishes in regards to the ceremony (or lack thereof) that honors the end of your life. And we're going to make a case for why you should be planning it now - regardless of your age or health.
Henry David Thoreau once said, "Routine is a ground to stand on, a wall to retreat to; we cannot draw on our boots without bracing ourselves against it." Routine can help us significantly through a time of grief by grounding us and helping us to get through the day.
It's hard enough when you're right beside someone to know how to help them deal with their grief during a difficult situation, but having hundreds, maybe thousands of miles between you can just exacerbate the issue.
You may feel helpless and like there's nothing you can do to help your friend or family member through this, but there are several ways you can help someone grieve, even from a distance. Here are a few suggestions on how to be present even when you can't be there physically.
Grief is not a linear process. There is no official starting and ending point. Sometimes we may think our grief is over and dealt with and then a certain date comes along, or we hear a song on the radio and it all comes flooding back.
Grieving a loved one, no matter what they do for a living, is difficult. But when a family loses service members, it can be particularly rough as there are additional obstacles and expectations. Whether you are a part of the military community or not, there are many ways you can help a family or loved one through this difficult time.
When someone is going through a difficult time in their lives, or they are grieving the loss of a loved one, the last thing on their mind is their own health. Often eating and exercising habits go out the window. At the same time, people may be sending sympathy gifts such as gift baskets that aren't necessarily nutritious alternatives.
When someone faces a loss, they rarely do it alone. If your friend has lost a spouse, it's likely their children have lost a parent, siblings have lost a brother or sister and in some cases, parents have lost a child.
In times of grief and distress, families come together, often staying together in the same house, or spending lots of time together doing the necessary tasks involved with a death such as funeral planning, visitations and the like.
When someone you love is going through a difficult time or has lost someone they love, people will rally around them and do whatever they can to help. In many cases, and most historically, people have brought food to people as they deal with their grief. But as this tradition evolved, people began to realize too much food was coming in all at once, overwhelming the bereaved, and leaving much of the food to go to waste.
When you've got a friend or loved one who is dealing with loss your natural reaction is probably to offer support and assistance, and maybe send them some flowers. However, sometimes it can be difficult to know exactly what kind of help might be most useful.
When a friend or loved one is grieving it can be easy to step up to the plate and offer support and assistance. However, if the person dealing with grief is a co-worker, there can be an element of uncertainty about how to go about dealing with the situation and offering assistance.