When you're dealing with grief, it can be hard to find an outlet. The people around you simply can't know what you're feeling and thinking. Well meaning people will say "I feel your pain" or "I know what you're going through" but the truth is that they don't. Everyone's grief is different and when you find yourself struggling with how to deal with your emotions, it may be time to reach out to a grief support group.
Grief can alter our appetites as well as our emotions. Generally when people deal with grief their appetite will go one of two ways - into nonexistence or into overdrive.
If you find yourself overeating through grief, there are several reasons why you may be doing this and several ways to get yourself back into a healthy diet.
It is a common reaction during a time of grief to lose your appetite for awhile. Sadness, anxiety and depression have different effects on all of us, but for many, food just becomes unappetizing. This is troublesome because the stress we experience during times of grief can deplete our immune system and we actually become less capable of fighting infection. If we're not eating well during these times of stress, our health can become compromised. And adding sickness on top of grief can cause even more stress, creating an extremely unhealthy downward spiral.
In the early stages of grief, cooking or eating something our lost loved one used to make can be difficult and painful. However, as we move through grief, cooking can become a certain kind of therapy.
All loss of life and the subsequent grief is difficult, but grieving after a suicide can be particularly hard because of conflicting feelings you may be having about your loved one who chose to take their life. Here are a few things to remember as you deal with this difficult time.
When we know someone who has lost a loved one, it's hard to know exactly what to say to them when we see them at the wake or funeral, or maybe just putting words into a sympathy card can be difficult. Then in the weeks and months that follow, what is and is not appropriate to talk about, and how do we continue to express our sympathy?
Below are just a few tips for different scenarios on how to express your feelings genuinely and succinctly.
In a sympathy card:
Losing a child, whether the child was born yet or not, is the hardest thing a parent can go through. Helping a friend or family member through this time can also be difficult. You may not know what to do or say, you may feel helpless and you may also be hurting from the loss.
If you've recently lost someone dear to you, you may be dealing with the kind of overwhelming grief that doesn't leave you for a second. This kind of grief can be physically and spiritually exhausting, leaving you little room to take on anything beyond your immediate feelings. But we all need rest and reprieve from grief - even if just for a few moments or a couple of hours. So what can you do that can take your mind off your feelings or help you cope and work through them?
Death is not the only thing people grieve. There are many traumatic situations in which people grieve and need sympathy and support from their loved ones. Below are just a few additional scenarios where people may find themselves in the throes of grief, and some tips for how to show your sympathy and support.
If you've ever lost someone close you to you - especially a parent, grandparent or spouse, you know how difficult it can be to sort through their affairs, find the appropriate paperwork, determine what needs to be done with all their belongings and so forth.